Saturday, July 7, 2012

I'm Not in Control (and Neither are You!)

When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves. - Viktor E. Frankl
There are some things I can't control.  (Don't tell my husband that I admitted this to you!)
  • I can't control the derecho that we - and one million other people - experienced last week.
  • I can't control my daughter's nightmares.
  • I can't control that my husband's dear friend just died from lung cancer at the tender age of 54.
Life is not of our making.  While we may live with the ILLUSION of power and control, the reality is that we are pawns in this game of chess.

I just finished the first chapter of Wrecked, an upcoming book by Jeff Goins and was reminded of the importance of humility - acknowledging our limitations and putting others first.

The good news is that while you (and I) CANNOT control what happens in the world,  WE CAN control how we respond to the poison arrows.  

I am testing my compassion muscle.  I aspire to be the calm in the storm and shelter others.  It is not easy.  It is painful and unnatural to turn the other cheek.  And, I'm convinced, it is the only way to live.

You?

J

2 comments:

jamesmschaffer said...

I can't even subscribing to your blog, and I hardly ever respond to those to which I do subscribe, but your post today really stopped me. Being in my late 50's I'm finding that instead of resting I am being called forth to work harder than ever and therein I am sure both humility and gratitude (what I read in your post) are required. Sorry for the loss of your young friend and the other challenges. I have mine, for sure. Keep up your good, good work here. I will begin to read your thoughts now more carefully. Grateful to be here.

Jocelyn said...

James,

Thanks so much for your comment. It means a lot to me.

Warmest regards,

Jocelyn