Saturday, September 28, 2013

Saying NO_Part 2

 
"Begin with the end in mind." - Stephen Covey

Yesterday I talked about the cultural constraints, facing women in particular, that hamper our ability to say "no" and make the best use of our time, talent, and treasure.

But culture alone can't explain why decision making is so difficult.  We have to also take personal responsibility for this task. 

Even the most powerful and empowered women make bad decisions. We stay in jobs and marriages for too long.  We accept lower wages and less respect for our work.  We don't LEAN IN and ask for what we want and deserve.  Again, part of this is due to cultural programming.  But there is another culprit at work too.  Namely, we don't know where we are going.

In other words, we don't have a clear vision of the END that we are trying to achieve. 

My husband reminds me that the captain's lack of clarity creates chaos for the entire crew!  How can you steer the ship if you don't know where you want to go? 

It's obvious that without the end in mind, you will not have a good rubric for making decisions.

More homework: This week, take 15 minutes to write down your definition of success.  Finish the sentences below.  Then use these "mission statements" as a guide to better decision making, including saying "no!"

"In a year from now, I will know I am a success at work because I will ..."
"In a year from now, I will know I am a success at home because I will..."

Cheers!

Jocelyn

P.S.  Thanks to Richard Perry for reminding me that beginning with the end in mind is critical for effective decision making.  In short, you can't say "yes" or "no" unless you know where you want to go!



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